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My Day In Court …

Everyone always wants their day in court, who the hell knows why! I agreed to be a witness for the party against my former landlord, it wasn’t a problem. The attorney told me it would be a short 90 minute trial starting at 9A and lasting until about 10:30A. I had figured it out with my job that if I got to work by noon, I’d make it to all my afternoon meetings, and the world would be a happy place.

Well, world wasn’t a happy place. Due to a horrible traffic jam caused by a flipped over car, I was stuck in traffic and didnt get to the court house until exactly 9AM. I found a parking spot and put a few quarters in the meter, figuring maybe three hours max (that’s six quarters), and then a sprint up to the seventh floor courtroom.

I found the courtroom and had to wait in line to enter because there was an officer patting everyone down. Great, now I’m going to get felt up. So it took about five minutes for the line to move forward and finally my turn for the “patting”. Had to remove my cellphone, paperwork and all sorts of other pocket junk, so he could put his hands all over me feeling for weapons. I didnt have anything on me.

Then I get inside the courtroom and have no clue what the attorney looks like. So I sat in the back waiting for them to be called up so I’d know who I’m looking for. At about 9:30A they were called up to talk to the judge, a good indication of who the attorney is when she said her name.

So, now we sat around for awhile and then the judge tells us that we need to go to a new courtroom. Okay, no problem. New courtroom, maybe it wont end til noon, but that should still get me to my meetings. This second courtroom lasted two minutes, where they told us to go to a third courtroom. So now this is looking hopeless.

We get to the third courtroom, where we are told the trial should start at 10:30A, meaning 90 minutes would put us at noon. There goes my first meeting of the day. So, things got going right on time, moving much slower than I thought they would and by 11:30A the other attorney was still doing his part of the trial, I didnt see how we were getting out of their by noon, but maybe 1 or 1:30P. Well, noon came and the judge decided to call a break. A lunch break for two hours. Ohmygod, can’t they just let us starve and get this over with.

Okay, so if we aren’t getting back until two, there go all of my meetings for the day. Shit. So, I call up my boss, leave a voicemail that I’m stuck in court and suck it in. Lunch was at an italian restaurant with a bunch of people I dont know. The attorney was very nice. A short little Salvadoranian lady, that was also missing some family things because of the length of this trial.

We got back to court at 2P and I sat through the trial listening to how much sex my former landlord had with this guy, how she says he beat her, and a bunch of other stuff. 4:30 rolled around the judge decided to call it a day. I’m still sitting there having missed all my appointments at work and still haven’t been called. The attorney pleaded with the judge to let me at least testify because I wouldnt be able to come back and at about 4:45P he finally agreed to let me testify. My testimony lasted about ten minutes, which was good because I was a nervous wreck having to sit up next to the judge in front of all these people. But it was also frustrating that my ten minutes worth of testimony made me sit there all day and miss all my important meetings. I was questioned by the attorney that asked me to be there, I was cross questioned by the other attorney, and then questioned some more by the judge.

“You are free to go.” Thats what the judge said as I finished. By this point it was 5P, I had sat in that courtroom all day, I was tired and frustrated and wanted to go home. I do have to say that it was interesting watching how things proceed. You dont know if the judge is crabby or what. I think he just wanted to get to the point and move on, like most of us there.

Anyhow, that was my day in court.

I spent all last night chatting with french girl, just in case any of you are keeping a notepad about it. She even signed my guestbook, just so you can all see she is real. I dont want Tim calling me “pretend french girl boy” or anything.

Speaking of Tim, that reminds me of a few others on the line that I haven’t seen in awhile. Like where is Krysten? Hmm, are you out there Krysten? Did you leave? Were you with Tim? Were you cheating on me? Where is everybody??

That reminds me of a commercial where the guy yells out, “Where is everybody?”.

So for those of you that read this journal, from time to time I offer my opinion or advice on people’s problems or personal lives. Just fill out the question box and let me know what you are dealing with and I’ll let you know how I’d handle it. So, everyone, welcome the Luuuuuuuuurve Doctor.

Before I give my opinion, I must give this disclaimer: I’m not a doctor, therapist nor do I have medical certification, so the opinions I express in this journal are my own and should be taken as such. By giving my opinion I’m not implying that you follow said opinion. You should consult a medical doctor before making any final decisions regarding your personal issues. I can’t be held responsible for how you choose to deal with your personal issues or if you choose to follow my advice.

Now, doesnt that sound nice and friendly. I dont need to be sued because someone is going to jump off a building because I said something.

So an anonymous reader sent in this question/problem to me and asked that I let her know what I thought. “How do you dispose of the most devious, despicible man on the face of the earth? Let me explain. There’s this boy, let’s call him Adam, who has screwed with all of my friends. At the beginning of November, Joe began dating Karen. They broke up, and he began dating Nikki. While he dated Nikki, he cheated on her with Jolene. During this time he did something with Andrea, who now wants to kill herself. He broke up with Nikki and dated Laura, but was still cheating with Jolene, who wasn’t emotionally stable anyways because her mom had just died. He broke up with Laura and went back out with Karen, cheating on Karen with Laura. Most recently, he sexually assulted me. I’ve never had a boyfriend: Hell, my nickname has always been “St. ___ the Chaste”! I wasn’t asking for it or anything. I’ve only told three of my friends about this, because with the rest of them, I’m not sure where their loyalties would lie. I don’t want them to judge me for what happened, even though it wasn’t my fault. Adam is a very good liar and a talented actor, so it’s basically his word against mine. I want to have all of my friends cut off ties to him completely, but how can I do this? Your help would be most appreciated.”

Ohmygod, guys. Do you see how this guy is playing you all? Besides some low self esteem issues between all of you, this guy is using all of your friends and then cheating on them with each other. How much more convuluted could this get.

Okay, let me start at the beginning and try to work downward. First I dont understand how you could all still be friends. This “Adam” is a predator. Basically he’s found a gold mine. He doesnt need to go out and find anyone because he has a group of friends who are all ready to screw him. More than this issue though, this guy sexually assaulted you. You need to tell someone about it and talk about it with a counselor or someone that can help you work through this. You might think by not telling it will go away, but it won’t and in the end will just end up making it harder for you to trust people later in life.

You should never think something like this is your fault, and your true friends will stick by your side. Again, I dont know how you could want all of these people as your friends since everyone is cheating on everyone else, but you need to get everyone together or talk to them one by one and find out how they feel about it and see if maybe something similar has happened to them. I dont know how you can make them cut off ties with him, other than to tell them your story and hope they side with you. If they are really your friends, they’ll side with you.

One thing I’ve learned about relationships is that they are usually a good test of friendships. It’s funny that when a a friend starts dating someone how quickly they forget about all of their other friends. I have friends who start dating and I dont see them for weeks or months at a time, and even then on when their significant other is out of town or once they break up.

I’ll tell you what, I’m not sure how to answer this, but am going to have readers send me their opinions on how to solve this problem and then post them here. So readers, its time to play doctor and write me with your opinion on how you would solve this problem.

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