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You’re The Best…

I was talking to Nicole about relationships today, when we got onto the subject of whether people are honest with their significant others about whether they are the best they’ve ever had.

Nicole (9:09:41 AM): My boyfriend says i’m better than his last gf. he said she just laid there
Greg (9:09:49 AM): haha…
Greg (9:10:06 AM): i was just going to say… you always tell the person you’re with that they are the best
Nicole (9:10:16 AM): Ugh
Nicole (9:10:25 AM): what if it’s true
Greg (9:11:13 AM): im not saying its not true.. just that you always tell the person you’re with that they’re the best
Nicole (9:11:21 AM): It’s true, my last boyfriend sucked 🙂
Greg (9:11:34 AM): but what if your last boyfriend was better…
Greg (9:11:42 AM): you’d still tell your boyfriend he’s the best
Nicole (9:11:54 AM): lol
Nicole (9:11:58 AM): why
Greg (9:12:11 AM): i dont know.. its just how it works
Greg (9:12:25 AM): like you’re going to say “Boyfriend, the last guy was better”
Greg (9:14:00 AM): 🙂
Nicole (9:14:10 AM): Oh lord
Greg (9:14:14 AM): haha
Greg (9:14:47 AM): the point is that when you’re in a relationship… that person is always the best
Nicole (9:14:57 AM): that’s lying
Greg (9:15:02 AM): im sure you didn’t have any complaints with your last boyfriend… until it was over
Nicole (9:15:19 AM): yes i did
Greg (9:15:32 AM): ugh… then why’d you keep doing it
Nicole (9:15:34 AM): he was an asshole
Nicole (9:15:40 AM): we didn’t
Greg (9:15:56 AM): well that works too
Greg (9:16:39 AM): well if for some reason you and your boyfriend broke up and you got with someone else.. youd tell them they were the best
Nicole (9:18:16 AM): i’d be honest…how else are they going to know what i like
Greg (9:18:34 AM): well of course you’d be honest about what you like…
Greg (9:18:50 AM): but if they asked you if they were better than your last bf… what would you say
Nicole (9:19:05 AM): The truth
Greg (9:19:08 AM): ugh
Greg (9:19:11 AM): no you wouldn’t
Nicole (9:19:44 AM): whateva
Greg (9:20:00 AM): ugh..

I’m not saying that it wouldn’t be true that the person you are with isn’t really the best, all I’m saying is that whether they are or aren’t, you’d probably lead them to believe they are the best, even if you didn’t flat out tell them in so many words.

Of course, I needed a second opinion on the matter, so I turned to Katie. That went well.

Greg (9:30:07 AM): if a guy is lousy in bed, do you still tell him he’s great
Katie (9:30:19 AM): where the hell didthat come from
Greg (9:30:29 AM): its from the conversation i was having with nic
Katie (9:30:37 AM): oh
Katie (9:30:40 AM): i just don’t say anything
Greg (9:30:51 AM): yeah but what if he asks you flat out
Katie (9:31:01 AM): then he’s a loser with no self-esteem anyway
Greg (9:31:05 AM): lol
Katie (9:31:09 AM): who the hell asks that flat out
Katie (9:31:11 AM): thats stupid
Katie (9:31:16 AM): thats something my ex would do
Katie (9:31:34 AM): ugh.. you say its better in a different way
Greg (9:31:36 AM): would you say, yeah you’re great or no my ex was better
Greg (9:31:52 AM): better in a different way
Greg (9:31:57 AM): whats that shit
Greg (9:32:02 AM): that means it sucks
Katie (9:32:04 AM): i dont think anyone has ever asked me that
Katie (9:32:33 AM): if somebody asked me that i would just joke around bcause i’d be annoyed they even asked
Greg (9:32:42 AM): ugh
Greg (9:32:59 AM): see maybe it’s a guy thing then
Katie (9:33:08 AM): have you asked somebody that
Greg (9:33:11 AM): no
Katie (9:33:21 AM): did somebody ask nicole that
Greg (9:33:26 AM): no
Katie (9:33:30 AM): then what the hell
Greg (9:33:39 AM): it came up because she said her boyfriend told her she’s better than his last girlfriend
Greg (9:33:58 AM): and i’m like… you always tell the person you’re with that they are better
Katie (9:34:04 AM): um, yeah
Greg (9:34:13 AM): even if they aren’t
Katie (9:34:13 AM): i dont like people telling me that
Katie (9:34:26 AM): i’d feel like they were lying or something
Greg (9:34:30 AM): well yeah, who the hell wants to be compared
Katie (9:34:38 AM): i know… just shut the hell up and fuck me
Greg (9:34:51 AM): i mean by telling someone that, it means you’re comparing them to your last one
Katie (9:35:05 AM): yeah, that sucks
Katie (9:35:36 AM): guys cant handle honesty
Greg (9:35:45 AM): exactly
Katie (9:35:55 AM): i tend to be brutally honest though.. so who knows
Katie (9:37:02 AM): its hard to compare people anyway
Greg (9:37:21 AM): but you know if someone is better or not
Greg (9:37:43 AM): like if one person just sucks
Katie (9:37:53 AM): yeah, but “good” can be different with different people
Greg (9:38:52 AM): i mean you might be honest with your friends… but i’m talking about between you and him
Katie (9:39:16 AM): i’d probably just lie to get him to shut up
Greg (9:39:20 AM): at some point, you might lead him to believe that he’s the best
Katie (9:39:27 AM): that would REALLY irritate me if somebody asked me that
Greg (9:39:31 AM): exactly
Greg (9:39:37 AM): even if he didn’t ask…
Katie (9:39:48 AM): if he didnt ask i wouldn’t say anything
Greg (9:39:51 AM): you might lead him to believe that he’s the best without actually saying it
Katie (9:39:55 AM): maybe
Greg (9:39:59 AM): ugh
Katie (9:40:06 AM): if its good its good.. and i’ll tell them it was good
Katie (9:40:15 AM): but i’m not all about boosting the ego..

I should clarify, that I’m not saying people go around asking whether they are better or not. Most are just happy to be getting it in the first place. But at some point in a relationship the conversation will turn to people you both have been with, and some questions might be asked. And if you were to be directly asked how they compare, would you skirt the issue or tell them they are better just to shut them up… or if they are better, just be honest. All I’m saying is that, for the most part, we tend to lead the person we’re with to believe that they are fabulous… the best ever. You might not come out and say it but you make sure they think it.

So, who knows. I still think people always make the person they are with believe that they are the best ever. That doesn’t mean that it isn’t true, but overall even if it’s not true, you lead them to believe they are the best. Just my opinion. Anyone else want to chime in, or am I the only one walking down this road.

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