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Personal Space…

On the way home from work, the people on the radio were discussing whether or not it’s okay for your spouse to read your mail/email or listen to your phone conversations. I found it interesting and wondered what most people would think about that.

There are two ways to argue this really. There are going to be the people that are going to say, if you have nothing to hide, you shouldn’t have a problem with your significant other reading your mail/email or listen in on your phone conversations. The flip side of that argument is that if you trust each other, you shouldn’t feel the need to read their mail/email or listen in on their phone conversations.

I tend to agree more with the latter. Now if Wifey™ opens some of my mail, I’m not going to freak out, but if it became something that was done all the time, then I’d start to think there are trust issues. Personally, I feel that if my spouse trusts me, then they wouldn’t feel the need to get into all of my business all the time. In fact, I don’t think it’s healthy for two people to feel the need to open each others mail or email or immediately grab the cell phone to see who’s calling their significant other. It’s really a trust issue. If you don’t trust each other, then what’s the point really.

Most of my mail is bills or junk mail. Same with my email, most of it is spam. If Wifey™ wants to look at it, she can go right ahead. Pretty boring. Personally, I just like to open my own mail. I don’t care if Wifey™ wants to see it afterwards, but I want to open it.

So back to the question: is it okay for your spouse/significant other to read your mail/email or listen to phone conversations? Sure, it’s okay… knock yourself out. Do I think it’s healthy? Not really. If you can’t trust the person you’re with enough to have their own email account without you looking through it, or getting mail without you having to see it, or even getting phone calls without you knowing who it is, then what’s the point of your relationship. It all begins with trust.

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